It is not about you. {Five Minute Friday}

Vintage Messenger


They kind of scare me.

The potential for misunderstanding is deafening, the feeling of betrayal crushing.  If you’ve felt it once, simply the memory of the pain can usher in the chills.

Proverbs 13:17  A wicked messenger falls into trouble, but a trustworthy envoy brings healing. 

I still have to take a deep breath when they approach.  But I have learned over time to weigh what is shared against what my favorite messenger shares with me.  He is gentle and kind and I have found that when I trust His truth I find freedom.

But what if you are that messenger?  How can you share the healing instead of spread the trouble?  How do you avoid trouble and yet still be full of integrity towards the message?

Surrounded by a classroom of young professionals hungry for the knowledge of communicating the tough things to audiences of hard hearers, my professor challenged my norm with a new thought.  She said, “It is your job as the messenger to tailor your message for the receiver to not just hear, but understand.” 

That completely swam against the selfish mindset flowing through my brain.  I had always put the responsibility of being understood on the hearer.  But that is where the trouble lies.

James 3:16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. 

Lights came on – her message was received and understood.  It left an impact.  Being a messenger is a position not to be taken lightly.  The responsibility is high, not just in communicating a “God-given” message, but even in communicating valuable things from my own soul or messages of change, or messages of encouragement.  Yes, even messages of correction.  I have felt the sting of a mishandled message and I don’t want to be one to deliver that kind of pain.

Before opening my mouth I need to consider the hearer.  Who are they, what filters do I know of, what language do they UNDERSTAND (not just linguistically, but emotionally)… what words will foster connection so that the message is received, not just heard audibly?

Philippians 2:3-4  Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.  Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others. 

Messengers don’t just share messages, they foster connections.


{I write today along side my dear friends at Five Minute Friday.  Oh these writers, how they have become like a group of good friends who gather once a week around a campfire to swap stories and laughs and give hugs.  You are absolutely welcome to join in too, the more the merrier.  Bring a good marshmallow stick!}


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